What Determines How Far We Go In Our Life? Is it our conditioning, mindset of our family or our overall environment ?

 

What is Success? How much successful can a person become? How far a person can go in his life? Can a person ever cross his limits, be it mental or physical?  The answer is Success differs person to person, it can be Money, Health, Happiness, Peace of Mind or the good and nurtured relationships. People judge success in terms of money. One cannot deny the fact that money is essential part of life and everyone can dream to be rich as money solves 99% of the problems in life. 

Exceptions like; family is already rich, family has positive approach for life & is open minded or a family allows to do what heart says, are always there, though in rare cases.  

Hence in order to be rich or well to do, one has to go through a lot of hardships on his own in life. Moreover there are some factors which determine how far we go in life, be it being rich or leading a good life what one can dream of.

Let's first talk about Our Conditioning as it plays an important role in shaping our lives. Conditioning is what we have been made familiar with from our day one of birth to teenage by our elders, the kinds of talks with us, the kinds of thoughts or beliefs passed to us. Our conditioning always has an impact on how we think and do things. So let's be very careful about it as soon as you are awake. Conditioning can also be understood by my very first blog. You  may check that to understand it deeply.

Now let's talk about Environment as it also plays an important role in shaping our perspective and belief system. Environment is where we live, whom we surround ourselves with, what we see and observe, knowingly or unknowingly. As we are tended or wired to believe what we see and observe, so one has to be very careful about the environment as soon as one comes in senses.

Finally let's talk about Mindset of family (including relatives as long as they may take decisions for you and may stop you from taking a certain step) as it is one of the important parts of our lives and it could be taken or considered as one of the biggest obstacles too, because all the members of family had different belief systems and environments in which they had grown up, made to believe on some uncertainly certain things and were conditioned differently. 

We all may overcome the bad conditioning and the environment (in which we have been surrounded with odd beliefs in initial years of our lives) by reading good things, taking that learning in practical life and changing the surrounding or by changing our own belief system by rewiring our brain, though it is hard, but not impossible. However if you talk about the mindset of the family, it becomes too hard to make any decision for our own life in their presence as they do not listen to what they do not believe on. You may fight the world for something, but toughest to deal with family for the same, having said that family wants our Best obviously, but they think that best would only come if we always do what they say, and if we do not do what they say and want, then the best is almost impossible for us in their head. 

I firmly believe that the Combination of  Our Conditioning, Environment and Mindset of family,  determines how far we go in our life. Generally they all do not have big dreams and if they have, then they do not let you dream big, may be because of some fear which exists in their brain. They do not let you become the driver of your own car called life. They may just want to convince you emotionally to live the way they have lived their life so far. They do it knowingly or unknowingly, but they play their roles with the masterpiece acts.

It becomes so hard to take decisions for someone who is young and wants to touch the height of success, someone who wants to fly and make mistakes, fail and is still willing to bounce back no matter what. What if someone from family who is craving to do something different that works and that changes the lives of family and people too? But, where is the freedom? Are we really free?

I think, till the age of 30, we can experiment or take calculated risks, because after 30, so many responsibilities come which do not allow us to take risks, sometimes not even calculated risks. Though age is just a number in some exceptional cases. You may do some research what those cases are and comment below. 

I believe that everyone must be allowed to do what he/she wants to, everyone must be allowed to make at least a few important decisions for his/her own life, everyone must be allowed to experiment, fail and learn and everyone must be allowed to reach to the full potential without any limitations imposed.

Can't we be just allowed to become the driver of our own Lamborghini, Audi or Maruti Alto for a while at least? Shouldn't we be allowed to take calculated risks? Shouldn't we be loving what we do? Should we not do what we love doing? Shouldn't we...?

These are my own observations from different lives, it might differ for you, though majority is same in our country. 

Please do share your views by commenting below on this blog & share it with your loved ones if it has touched you somewhere.